Ever notice that the feeling never lasts?

You know what I’m talking about, the “new car feeling” lasts for a while but then, it becomes just another car.

The new house is awesome, but sooner or later the feeling fades, the new job or business is the same. Some even fall into this trap with their relationships, trading up every 7 to 10 years.

Why doesn’t the feeling last? Because the Outside can’t change what’s Inside you.

NFL Hall of Famer Dion Sanders shared with me that one of the lowest points in his life, was winning his first Super Bowl. His whole career he was told that winning  the Super was the ultimate. Shortly after the win he realized, no matter where you go and what you do, there you are.

Nothing on the outside can change you on the inside, only you can change you, through personal growth and learning to love yourself. The outside can only mask things and provide temporary highs.

The key to permanent everlasting joy is learning to love yourself, and truly understanding that the creator of the universe made you for a purpose and He loves you no matter what.

Two Reasons why “Balance” is a LIE.

For those that are continuously chasing their tail, trying to achieve work life balance or any kind of balance in life, let me help you stop the pain. There is no such thing as balance. It’s doesn’t exist, which is why you can never achieve it. You get close, only to have all your dominoes toppled at the last minute. How long will you try to find something that doesn’t exist? Let me prove it to you.

Reason #1. The biggest illusion of finding balance is that once you get there, you can stop. At last, you will be rid of all the tension and you can relax and get some much needed rest. The simple truth is, in order to “stay balanced” you have to “keep balancing” which requires the same if not more work. Have you ever been on a slack line? Or tried your hand at surfing? Once you stand up and get “balanced” you have to use even more muscles and more effort to “stay balanced.” The illusion of a balanced life free from tension and stress, where you always arrive early and your kids never act up and all your customers pay on time and cash flow is always at an all time high, is just that, an illusion.

Reason #2. Surprise, instead of another reason I’m going to give you a a pain free alternative to chasing your tail. Instead of chasing after balance, You Can achieve Harmony. I first discovered this when my bride and I took our 6 and 9 year old to the Philharmonic Symphony. Our goal was to make it to intermission : ) As the symphony was warming up, the sounds coming from their instruments were anything but. In fact it was very out of balance. As well I took a count of all the different instruments and how many of each there were. The violins out numbered them all and of course there was only one cymbal and one xylophone, again totally out of balance. The sheet music that all the symphony was using for the nights performance was a jumble of notes, all over the page with no continuity, totally out of balance. Yet when the conductor flipped his wand, Harmony filled the air. It was magnificent to behold and to hear I can assure you. Plus our children did really well and made it through he whole show.

The good news is, you get to be the conductor and the composer of your life. Each season is going to require different notes in different places, but no matter what is happening, you can turn all this imbalance into Harmony. Remember, your sheet music doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s, that’s the reason you became an entrepreneur in the first place right? Your Harmony make look and sound totally different than mine and that’s ok. For my bride and I we Homeschool our children, get remarried every year, have multiple businesses and ministries, yet we create large amounts of down time and tech free zones in our house and tech free days every week. This maybe the exact opposite of Harmony for you or you may like some of notes, feel free to use them and create your own Harmony. You can do it!

Pride & Ego slowing your business & personal growth?

Is your pride and ego getting in the way of the business growth? What about your personal and spiritual growth? It sure did for me! I left millions on the table because I only wanted to obey God part of the time and when it was convenient. Full disclosure, my intimacy with my bride and my personal growth suffered as well. All because I wanted to run the show and listen to God only when I agreed or it made sense to me.

What I have finally discovered is that the more obedient I become, the richer and fuller my life is. I’m far from perfect but I’m getting better and that’s what it’s all about. I encourage you to re-tune your ears to hear God’s still small voice and then listen to it, you will be so glad you did!

Health is the Real Wealth

Live The Detox Lifestyle

Did you know that from 4am to 12 noon is your bodies natural detox time? Your body is attempting to detoxify itself, but after many entrepreneurs stack so much unhealthy food in their bodies, then add in the additional stress of running a business and lack of exercise, the body has a hard time keeping up.

Detox products and “cleanses” are the all the rage these days but they are not the answer. The answer lies in your daily routine and letting you body cleanse itself. Jesus gave us the answer 2,000 years ago to living healthy and having “Life to the Full.” When the disciples asked Him how to pray he said “give us today our daily bread.” See, eating carbs is biblical lol! What he was really saying and echoed in his other talks is the importance of simply focusing on today. The world is all about selling us the magic remedy to make up for all our poor daily choices. It’s a lucrative business and since it’s easier to take a pill or magic potion than it is to change, most people stay caught in the doom loop.

But I know your not most people, as you wouldn’t be investing your time reading this article. So how do you leverage the power of the daily detox? Simple. Just eat fruit as your first meal of the day, every day. Fruit is the ultimate magic bullet. It contains special enzymes so you body can instantly absorb it’s nutrients, and all the fibers keeps the GI track happy and things moving along. Best of all it creates a daily detox.

For those of you that are already on the “Apple a Day” program, stay with it, the more fruit the better. The best part is, it doesn’t matter what fruit you choose. You can be like me and have the same fruit for breakfast every morning, or you can mix it up, it doesn’t matter. Any extra fruit you eat during the rest of your day, like an apple, is a bonus. Some days you may eat 4 or 5 pieces of fruit for breakfast, other days it may just be 1. It’s ok, this is a no stress program, just eat fruit as your first meal of the day, every day and watch what happens.

Enjoy the present, while you plan for the long term.

According to Erwin McManus, to enjoy life is a sacred act of worship. At first I didn’t agree with that statement, I was too caught up in building businesses, raising a family and trying to be “spiritual.” Enjoying life was something you got to do after…. After the kids were raised, after the business matured or sold, after we had “X” amount in the bank.

Sure, I had my moments of enjoyment, our yearly weddings and honeymoons were always at the top of the list. We had our special times with the kids as well, but the simple truth is, I was living life but not fully enjoying life. Until I learned that the road to heaven, is heaven, and if you can’t honestly say that, then it’s time to change.

Disney recently put out the movie Christopher Robin, which is a must see. It stars Ewan McGregor as a grown up Christopher Robin who has let the cares of the world distract him from being the father and husband he really wants to be. In one special scene Christoper explains to his wife he can’t go on their planned vacation, because he has to work. Like everyone caught up the cares of the world, he tries to explain that work is very important for their future life together. To this his wife responds, “Your life is happening right now, in front of you and your missing it.” As an entrepreneur it’s too easy to focus on the great future we’re building and we forget to enjoy our life right now. Don’t wait until you have grand kids to get perspective, get it now.

It wasn’t until I really started digging into the scriptures that I was able to embrace the truth that truly enjoying my life, living it to the full and being grateful for it was an act of worship. Nehemiah 8:10 says: The Joy of the Lord is your strength. Did you get that key word, JOY! As in, enjoy. He also said strength, as in all your power will come from the joy of the Lord. You can be driven and joyful at the same time, you can be goal oriented and joyful at the same time, you can be committed and joyful at the same time. You can build a successful family but only with joy!

To be fully transparent, there was a part of me that didn’t think it was ok or “spiritual” to enjoy life. But the more I read and asked God for guidance the more He opened my eyes to want He wanted for me. In John 10:10 it says:  The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. Wow, what a great phrase, life to full! Not half, not 3/4 but to the full.

So what does life to the full look like? It’s living the Gold Life, thriving in your health, your relationships, your finances and your spiritual walk. In order to go from your “old” life to the “Gold Life” the first thing is to drop in a capital “G” in front of old and truly put God first. Yes you really can have life to the full, in fact it’s how it’s suppose to be with God and it all starts with enjoying the now.

As Christopher Robin & Pooh himself once said:

“What day is it?”
“It’s today.”
“Oh, my favorite day.”

This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it. -Psalm 118:24

Invest Your Time Where it Counts

Are you letting the cares of the world pull you away from those you care about?

Imagine having the entire cast of Shark Tank sitting in your office, just hanging out and ready to give you sage advice about helping your company prosper. However, instead of being in your office, you choose to run around like a chicken with its head cut off making sure everything is set up for the paparazzi, TV cameras, and the special VIP dinner you have planned. Not a wise move.

This is exactly where Martha found herself when Jesus himself came to her house. She was “distracted by all the preparations that had to be made” and missed the golden opportunity to sit with the Son of God and learn. Don’t think for a minute I’m comparing the Shark Tank stars to Jesus — rather, I’m comparing the situation. I specifically chose this comparison because, as entrepreneurs, we are trained to spot opportunities and seize them, so of course we are going to tap the wisdom of our favorite Shank Tank stars. Yet we miss golden opportunities with our spouses and children because we get distracted with the busyness of our businesses.

Just recently, I was having a delightful evening with my family in the living room. We intentionally do not have a TV in that room (hot tip) so we can focus on each other, play games, talk, rest,
or just sit by the fire. You may also remember from last month’s cell phone sabbatical article that I purposely leave my phone in my office so I can have undistracted family time. As the evening progressed, I had an idea to share some recent pictures with my children; I did a no-no and went back into my office to get my phone. It started out well, the kids and I were on the couch together as we scrolled through the pictures on my phone, then disaster struck!

Suddenly, my phone was bombarded with texts and the messages came over on top of the pictures. I did my best to ignore them, but my will power simply is not that strong. I told the kids, “Give me a second,” (yeah, right) and began to answer these urgent texts that really were not that urgent at all. My daughter took that time to retrieve from her room a crocheted scarf that she had just made and was excited to show me. As you already can imagine, my “one sec” turned into 10 minutes, and my daughter and son both realized that Dad had checked out. Sadly for me, so did they. By the time I resurfaced from the text world and looked up, my family was gone and had engaged in other things. I called out to my daughter to ask about the scarf and she sadly said, “Nevermind, daddy.”

I broke one of my cardinal rules and paid a huge a price for it. I let the cares of the world pull me away from those I really care about. I missed a golden opportunity to praise and encourage my daughter for her creativity and hard work. I missed the opportunity to enjoy a night of restoration and living water for my soul by delighting in my family uninterrupted.

Jesus says in Luke 41–42: “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed — or indeed, only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her.”

The investment of time you make in your family can never be taken away and it pays the greatest returns. Invest your time where it counts before it’s too late. Take action now and enjoy the benefits.

Half Way There Pod Cast



What to expect from this interview:

  • What Evan means by “life to the full”
  • Growing up in Los Angeles in a “normal dysfunctional family”
  • Constantly being converted
  • The value of being in the present and how to practice presence
  • Discovering how to love himself
  • Marrying his wife again every year and the spiritual benefits
  • How the practice of marrying one another again inspires others
  • Releasing expectations about what a good Christian should be
  • Daily dark night of the soul

Great quotes:

“Let’s figure out how to create your life to the full and what does that look like being authentic to your life and faith?”

“Life is really about, I believe, living your dreams and serving other people. Greatness is doing them both at the same time.”

“I don’t think you can commit to a marriage and not commit to Christ.”

“What would it look like if you put as much energy into romancing your wife as you do into fantasy football?”

LISTEN HERE:  https://ericnevins.com/podcast/halfwaythere/112/

Success is One Thing Impact is Another.

“Many men can can make a fortune but very few can build a family.” –J. S. Bryan

What is the eternal impact that you are having through your business operations? Have you ever thought about it? Now is the time.

Living Life to the Full is so much more than success; it’s all about impact. The biggest impact is a lasting impact. Let’s take a look at the most critical areas, shall we? How is your business impacting your health? Tell me how you can have a lasting impact when you’re sick, stressed, and angry? “Wait a minute, Evan. I thought this article was going to be about leaving a legacy, not my health.” One of the greatest legacies you can leave is the legacy of good health. It all starts with an apple a day!

The No. 1 cause of death in the United States is still heart disease and it has been for the last 80 YEARS! So much for the impact
of progress and technology! The main contributor to heart disease is stress, so I will ask you again, how is your business affecting your health?

I remember when I answered that question honestly for the first time back in 2005. My main business division was in rapid-growth mode, and money was pouring in, but so was the stress. I realized that my present business model was not working well for my overall health and sanity. So I leveraged the power of the 80/20 Prato Principal. I ran the numbers and, sure enough, 80 percent
of my profits came from 20 percent of my clients. After deeper study, I realized these were my favorite clients and they caused me the least amount of stress. I took action that day and changed my model to only work with those 20 percent, and I’m so glad I did. I share this story to encourage you to make a shift in your business so you can maximize your health and sanity. Remember, health is the Real Wealth.

The next question is how is your business affecting your marriage and, if you have them, your relationship with your kids? Yes, we are going there, because if you’re not Living Life to the Full, then you are not really living at all. In Los Angeles, where I was born and raised and still reside, I’m surrounded by people living one- pillar lifestyles. They have nice houses and cool cars, but they are bankrupt in their health and relationships, and they have no time. No wonder everyone is trying to escape through entertainment, drugs, alcohol, porn, or whatever. No thanks, not for me.

The purpose of your business is to serve the lifestyle you want, not the other way around. Too many people get confused and feel like they have to keep building or keep scaling up in order to be successful. J. S. Bryan said, “Many men can make a fortune but very few can build a family.”

I encourage you to join me and be one of the few who chose to Live Life to the Full and thrive not only in your business but also in your health and relationships. The simple truth is “All things are possible for him who believes,” Mark 9:23. All means all, but it will require some intentional living and focusing on harmony instead of the balanced lie. Oops, I’m getting ahead of myself; I’ll share more about that in the next blog. For now, I challenge you to stop and take a new look at your life. Are you leaving the legacy you want in your marriage? How about the intentional time you spend with your kids? Lastly, are you leaving the legacy of good health? Now is the time to take action and change. You can do it.